- Ernest Hemingway (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
srcsrc1. First, decide to love and believe in yourself, and to see your worth and value as a person. Don’t allow the rudeness or cruelty of others erode your personal respect for yourself.
2. Next, don’t allow the actions or words of other people make you feel as if you really don’t belong. It’s better to detach, and to choose to be with others, than to spend time with “friends” who are going to treat you badly.
3. Knowing that, decide not to treat them the way that they treat you. Don’t lower your standards – you’re more mature than that.
4. Don’t acknowledge their messages or answer their calls. Don’t take part in their plans, or do things that they suggest.
5. Make sure you have excuses to not hang out with them – but make sure your excuses are always plausible (For example, you have too much homework, you need to go to soccer practice, you need to do stuff with your family, or don’t have any time).
6. If you happen to see them: smile, say “hi” … then keep on walking. You don’t want to get pulled into some drama with them.
7. Ignore them if they’re rude, or sarcastic and mean. They want you to react, and to feel hurt and rejected.
8. Find a different group of friends who will value who you are – who will always treat you well, and who do things you enjoy.
src1. Don’t beat yourself. We all make mistakes, have bad experiences, and get it wrong at times.
2. Don’t dwell on what happened. Choose to learn from the past – but remember that your power’s in the present and the future.
3. Remember your potential, and what’s possible for you. You’re not that one experience or bad result.
4. Don’t let others’ expectations shape and influence your goals. It’s not their life you’re living … So decide what you will do.
5. Imagine how you’ll feel if you persevere and, despite all the obstacles, achieve success. That’s surely worth the effort, even thought it’s hard right now.
6. Just take one small step … It will rebuild your confidence … And then take another … And another after that.
src1. Stop comparing yourself to others
2. Stop demanding and expecting perfection (from yourself and other people)
3. Practice kindness and understanding
4. Be your own best friend when you make a mistake
5. Look for things that you like about yourself and choose to take pleasure, and find joy, in them
6. Believe that you deserve to experience good things
7. Make the decision to enjoy your life, and to love what you are doing, and to believe in yourself.
- Maya Angelou (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
srcsrc1. Just because I laugh a lot … doesn’t mean I don’t take life seriously.
2. Just because I act as if I’m happy … doesn’t mean that everything is OK.
3. Just because I’m willing to forgive … doesn’t mean that you can treat me badly.
4. Just because I’m not in touch with you … doesn’t mean that I’ve forgotten, or don’t care about, you.
5. Just because I am trusting and am sometimes gullible… doesn’t mean that you can lie, or take advantage of me.
6. Just because I hold back and don’t always show my feelings … doesn’t mean that I don’t feel, or can’t be hurt by you and others.
7. Just because I find it hard to say the words “I love you” … doesn’t mean that I don’t love you, or care about you.
8. Just because I am different from you in many ways … doesn’t mean that I am weird, or there’s something wrong with me.
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src1. Start by being kind and gentle with yourself. There are plenty of people who would love to criticise … So be your own protector and your own best friend.
2. Choose self-love over self-hatred. Many people find they veer between these two extremes – but over time gravitate more towards one or the other (through automatic thinking and their inner dialogue) … So actively reject self-hatred, and then exercise self-love.
3. Stop being harsh and judgmental, and accept your imperfections. We’re all flawed and broken, and we all make bad mistakes.
4. Start enjoying who you are, and being alone with yourself. Embrace solitude, and the chance to be with “you”.
5. Think of all the different things you’re grateful for in life, and the people who have loved you, and have seen the good in you. As you do that, you will start to value who, and what, you are.
